So my office mate and I had a bit of an impasse today. She just came back from holidays in Orlando.  She was furious at me because I told other co-workers she went to Florida on her days off.  I didn't see the big deal as she'd told some of them already and showed us pictures upon her return.  It only upset her more because I didn't see it as a big deal.  I'm in the wrong because she has a right to feel however she wants to feel and it's her right to tell or not to tell her business but I am such an open book I don't understand the secrecy over things like that.  I don't tell anyone other things she tells me that I feel ARE private but I honestly didn't see the issue or I wouldn't have said anything.

She and her husband both work for us (in different areas) and are both VERY private.  Like weird, 'we-are-in-the-witness-protection-program' kind of private.  Her husband almost died from his appendix rupturing because he didn't want to air his private life at work.  Then he ended up in emergency surgery and know one knew because he just didn't show up for work the next day.  So his boss shows up in our office asking her if she knows where her husband is because he hadn't heard from him and people were trying to get ahold of him.  She ends up telling him and her husband is furious at his boss a) for prying into his personal life b)for asking her in front of me and other co-workers. 

Those are just a couple of examples and I'm sure some of you absolutely get where they are coming from but I just find it extreme.

Are you a private person -Maybe about only certain things or are you like me-ask me and I'll tell you?

Interesting thread iron maiden,

Most of the time I am pretty open, I prefer to list my faults or errors and save other people the trouble.
With anything related to my family I am pretty private, I have a real hate for people who bag out their partner or kids publicly. I try to treat relationships with respect... The only other things I might keep private are things that might make the other person upset or jealous if they are prone to those emotions. For this reason I don't invite some people back to my house and that sort of thing... Not that my house is a mansion or anything

I think I’m pretty normal. I mean that I’m not going to be talking about my sexlife with coworkers, but I’ll tell them where I’m going on vacation.

It's not really your personal life if it affects your attendance at work, is it? They sound a bit crazy to me.

I wouldn't say I keep anything particularly private but just don't feel the need to tell any one about the minutia of my life either in person or on social media. I have a work colleague who is a bit of an oversharer, particularly about her kids (unfortunately I apparently remind her of her son so she thinks I am interested in him even though I couldn't be less) but I can put up with the ten minute stories for the sake of office harmony.

I’m honestly not trying to make this a thing, but my answer is exactly what Incy answered.

I hate people who shit talk their family in public. “Oh my husband is this” and “my kid is this”. I’m a very private person when it comes to my family and I too have to watch out if I go on a brag story at work because of some that are unfortunately less fortunate and may get offended or salty.

I’m a pretty open person, on and offline. Online I get away with using my real name as a screen name often because it sounds made up.
IRL there’s not really much that’s off limits. I mostly work with 18-25 year olds so the work convos can be pretty inappropriate at times but I’m not the one starting these talks.

I can’t really think of anything I’m really private about, I don’t like talking about my finances in detail but I feel like everyone is that way 🤷🏻‍♀️

One of my friends is like IM’s co-worker, he’s going to Japan in a week and hasn’t told his Dad or one of his employees.

Though I’m private in comparison to my youngest brother who has his whole FB on public and overshares everything you could imagine, especially relating to drug use. One of the wrestlers I know is the same, public FB and he is in prison now and has shared his legal trouble throughout the entire process with complaints etc (I would assume lawyers would tell you to be quiet?)

Jan 8, 2019 0:50:34 GMT System said:

I can’t really think of anything I’m really private about, I don’t like talking about my finances in detail but I feel like everyone is that way 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is a tool of the rich to keep the working class poor.
I sincerely believe this, I know a lot of really wealthy people and they are always discussing investment strategies and banking.

I have helped a lot of my friends restructure their finances and save some tax.

Jan 8, 2019 0:54:29 GMT iNCY said:

Jan 8, 2019 0:50:34 GMT System said:

I can’t really think of anything I’m really private about, I don’t like talking about my finances in detail but I feel like everyone is that way 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is a tool of the rich to keep the working class poor.
I sincerely believe this, I know a lot of really wealthy people and they are always discussing investment strategies and banking.

I have helped a lot of my friends restructure their finances and save some tax.

I get talking about investment ideas and stuff, but I don’t see how discussing with a friend what I got paid last week for example is beneficial to me?

It's more the stigma of discussing money, when you know what your friend makes, perhaps you are no longer satisfied with your wage.

Fergus Ferguson may be my favourite name ever.

In my early 20s, I was a lot more forward with personal information that I shared online, and in general. As I got older, I have certainly become more and more private, especially now that I have a son. Some things I'll talk freely about (WANT TO KNOW ABOUT MY MOST RECENT BOWEL MOVEMENT? CHECK OUT www.ratemypoo.com ) but most things are kept pretty close. If you're in my circle, you certainly know enough.

Jan 8, 2019 0:50:34 GMT System said:

I can’t really think of anything I’m really private about, I don’t like talking about my finances in detail but I feel like everyone is that way 🤷🏻‍♀️

I have a handful of people I will talk money with, of similar or higher income. Of course there's a degree of trust here. I have a six-figure bank account and have for a good number of years that I choose to keep quiet about apart from those few, as I know a lot of people live week to week, and maybe banging on about how comfortably I am, when others are struggling isn't always cool.

I think if you can talk money, and it's on either end of giving or receiving advice or support, it's fine.