I just want to give a huge shoutout to System he has been my rock this year (and over the years of course) but this year has challenging, I’ve made some potentially not smart choices in regards to work. I’ve been depressed and angry over circumstances that happened in December that honestly I’m still not over.

I’ve been ridiculously stressed with life, work, friends, family etc. going through stages of depression and anger. This poor guy deals with some of the worst people of the general public, and then he deals with my shit.

At no point has he just told me to get over it, he listens to my rants and comforts me, offers solutions and tries to talk reason into me when my anxiety takes over. Makes sure we are doing fun things and keeping my mind busy.

This week alone I got extremely upset because my Dad blamed me for a problem he had and he got extremely depressed and said a lot of hurtful things. Which caused me to get just as upset.
Then after that I got upset about my best friend and I not being as close as we were, and my friend doesn’t care and keeps blowing me off even after I spoke to them about it, and then lastly - my car decided to die last night. It has been an upsetting, stressful and triggering week but Fergus has been absolutely incredible in every way.

So I want to use this post to praise System
I love and adore you, and I’m sorry that I am a broken mess at the best of times. Here is to more positive things to come ❤️
Almost 11 years and I’m beyond grateful for you xx

Feel free to praise System some more, or praise your own wonderful partner!

11 years? When's the wedding?

Beautiful post. The sign of true love is sticking together even when your partner is at their absolute worst. You face your problems together and never run away. You are an amazing partner System!

I am fortunate enough to share a similar relationship with my wife Empress. We hold the same values: honesty is number one, communication as open as possible. We're constantly praising each other in small ways, we're silly and proud of it. We are able to be our best selves around each other.

Perhaps the most striking thing about our relationship is when we disagree. People say all couples "fight", all couples "argue", to the point where it is just accepted. More than one co-worker has asked me, shortly after Empress moved in with me, how many fights we had. It's baked in our society's humour but under the surface I find it to be a disrespectful and intrusive question.

My wife and I don't fight. Yes, we disagree on things, and sometimes we make each other sad. However it's never an argument. We collect our thoughts (which sometimes takes a long time), sit down and have a civil conversation. The goal is not to "win", but to understand each other's perspectives and come to a mutual understanding. These uncomfortable conversations are never easy, far from it, but in our view they are essential, and 100% of the time we've come out from the other side feeling more loved and stronger than before.

She's perfect, and we're perfect together.

System does have a stake in the 666... 600 championship! 🏆

The very lovely Mrs iNCY is the opposite to me in nearly every way, except for our shared values.

I am no sure what she saw in me, but I suspect it's long gone. Another testament to her character

This is a lovely thread, thanks for starting it Sandy!

Meeting my wife is the best thing that’s ever happened to me. She’s funny, easy going, smart, kind and beautiful. We have just started the “fourth phase” of our relationship and it has been incredibly rewarding and emotional.

It’s a bit cliched but after ten years I still love her more every day and often find myself just staring across the room at her thinking how lucky I am to be with her.

Had a very brief fling with a decent looking high school English teacher that I had high hopes for this Summer. It was fun while it lasted but I just don't have the time to give these women the attention they want, if I don't text back immediately it's a problem, If I don't rush to be by their side every free second I have it's a problem. Very hard to keep these women happy when I have 2 hours round trip driving for work, on top of being full time single dad with 3 year old that has to be cleaned and fed. My mom watches him too much already dropping him off and picking him up for head start and the nights when I don't get home from the MMA gym until 9, so I just don't have it in me to ask her to watch him to go out on a date, I feel like that would just be too much(plus I need my time with him). There are no weekends or weeks off like most other single dads that split custody, his mother is permanently out of the picture. So my partner is my 3 year old boy and I'm settled into being single with just him, he's all I need, he's my ride or die. We had a blast at the football field tonight doing sprints together, when he just randomly tells me I love you daddy that shit hits hard. He likes all the same movies and music I do and he makes me laugh. So I don't really need anybody else I'll start saving up for one of those fancy sex dolls that look like a real woman. Prop her up in the truck and ride around with her lets fucking go.

I’ll praise sandylea as it’s her birthday today! 🥳
I love you, happy birthday!
Not about me but thank you for the kind words.

Has been a wonderful journey together and she has shown great resolve over the last few months. Always a loving, caring and dependable person that would help anyone in need at the drop of a hat.

Happy birthday sandylea. I hope you have an amazing year!

Happy birthday, sandylea!

I know this a positive thread, but I’ve now seen multiple videos of people in the US complaining about people saying “Partner” to refer to their significant other,

One guy got in a fight with his friend because he called the guy’s wife his partner, comments on X saying it was a red flag a woman called her husband her partner.

Very commonplace here so what am I missing?

Sept 4, 2024 4:18:05 GMT System said:

I know this a positive thread, but I’ve now seen multiple videos of people in the US complaining about people saying “Partner” to refer to their significant other,

One guy got in a fight with his friend because he called the guy’s wife his partner, comments on X saying it was a red flag a woman called her husband her partner.

Very commonplace here so what am I missing?

It might have come from the gatekeeping of the word by (some) LGBTQ people. I don't understand that because if it's about protecting your sexuality then wouldn't it be beneficial for same-sex couples to use it as well? Maybe I'm just ill-informed.

I've never used it for a different reason; it doesn't sound sexy. You say partner I'm immediately thinking of Woody from Toy Story.

Literally everything today is a red flag, I wouldn't over think it.

I use partner because that's what they should be. A partner in life. Different strokes for different folks.

I have no objection to the word partner - I like the term "life partner" - but I also agree that it's an formal, unsexy term. Still, far from a red flag.

Yeah I guess in America when I hear about someone’s “partner” I would probably assume they’re in a homosexual relationship. It’s just it’s most common connotation, though we’ve certainly gotten better about a man saying boyfriend or husband (or the opposite with women), I still know a significant number of older people not out enough to go beyond partner or even roommate. But I live in a pretty rural area so that’s part of it.

The best thing about my partner is she is the funniest person I know. She’s got an incredible dark sense of humor and makes me laugh at inappropriate things daily. She’s supportive and thoughtful, a great gift giver, has a great taste in music, etc. but her sense of humor is still my favorite thing about her.