Post by theend on Feb 21, 2020 14:05:29 GMT
I could see the word tragedy being argued here. It's more of a tragic crime. And one of a tragic individual. I went to JR High and High school with a guy. Within my group of friends he was never a close friend but he was always around. In smaller circles of 5-10 friends he would likely be included and be there. He was the fun, punk, hyperactive shithead you kinda rooted for in life. The guy who came from the special education wing of the high school like a rocket and talked about how he was fighting his medication (ADD) . I slept over at his house in JR High and we both spent too many hours at alternative nightclubs smoking our lungs away. As an adult, he struggled, was a chef, became a dad.
His JR high best friend was David. David was engaged and this guy ended up sleeping with David's fiancee and marrying her. David went on to marry the love of his life. David considered it a blessing in the long term. He forgave this guy and accepted him again as a friend. But at a distance.
I ran into this guy at a party for a gas station that a ton of locals worked at and hung out at. Our Quick Stop for Jay and Silent Bob fans. I was impressed. His wife was problematic both mentally and physically. He was a trooper, working hard to support her and their family. They divorced. He fell in love, she left him after they were engaged as she announced that she was gay.
He fell in love again. Solid gal. Sweet gal. We are 40 now and acting like adults. He marries her and maybe, just maybe his life is headed on a good path of ease. They have a combined family. He is able to work part-time and go to school. I run into him at a store where he was working security and they plan on flip-flopping who is working and who is going to school to advance their careers and life.
Then I get a message from a friend asking if I am looking to here some big news. This guy had been arrested for child porn and incest. He had filmed or took pics of himself with her daughter. He tried to transfer pics from his phone to his computer of a 1000 images of child pron through facebook messenger. In his interview with police, he pretty much admits everything. Admits his attraction to kids.
Now, yep, my old buddy is a pedo. It's awkward to me as I know the way too much about pedos. He was likely abused and continued the circle of abuse. Or else he may be mentally stunted in the term of attraction. He probably has been attracted to kids since he was a youth. And never grew up in that way. Just added more ages to his range. Never lost any. He probably had victims since his teenage years. I bet he spilled like a can of beans in part because he was relieved, knowing he was living as an outcast to society. I'd bet he totally knew what he was doing was wrong. But he had an attraction, an itch to scratch.
While I sort of see him as a victim, quite possible a victim that completed a cycle victimhood and I somewhat understand/empathize with his mental illness or sexuality or whatever pedophilia really is I write this as if he committed suicide because in a way it is like he did commit suicide to me. He is dead to me. I lost an old friend, not a close friend. But still someone at times we harshly disagreed over social subjects and politics but still an old friend. And he left a trail of victims, his family, her family and all of us. So, maybe it is a tragedy, not just a crime.
His JR high best friend was David. David was engaged and this guy ended up sleeping with David's fiancee and marrying her. David went on to marry the love of his life. David considered it a blessing in the long term. He forgave this guy and accepted him again as a friend. But at a distance.
I ran into this guy at a party for a gas station that a ton of locals worked at and hung out at. Our Quick Stop for Jay and Silent Bob fans. I was impressed. His wife was problematic both mentally and physically. He was a trooper, working hard to support her and their family. They divorced. He fell in love, she left him after they were engaged as she announced that she was gay.
He fell in love again. Solid gal. Sweet gal. We are 40 now and acting like adults. He marries her and maybe, just maybe his life is headed on a good path of ease. They have a combined family. He is able to work part-time and go to school. I run into him at a store where he was working security and they plan on flip-flopping who is working and who is going to school to advance their careers and life.
Then I get a message from a friend asking if I am looking to here some big news. This guy had been arrested for child porn and incest. He had filmed or took pics of himself with her daughter. He tried to transfer pics from his phone to his computer of a 1000 images of child pron through facebook messenger. In his interview with police, he pretty much admits everything. Admits his attraction to kids.
Now, yep, my old buddy is a pedo. It's awkward to me as I know the way too much about pedos. He was likely abused and continued the circle of abuse. Or else he may be mentally stunted in the term of attraction. He probably has been attracted to kids since he was a youth. And never grew up in that way. Just added more ages to his range. Never lost any. He probably had victims since his teenage years. I bet he spilled like a can of beans in part because he was relieved, knowing he was living as an outcast to society. I'd bet he totally knew what he was doing was wrong. But he had an attraction, an itch to scratch.
While I sort of see him as a victim, quite possible a victim that completed a cycle victimhood and I somewhat understand/empathize with his mental illness or sexuality or whatever pedophilia really is I write this as if he committed suicide because in a way it is like he did commit suicide to me. He is dead to me. I lost an old friend, not a close friend. But still someone at times we harshly disagreed over social subjects and politics but still an old friend. And he left a trail of victims, his family, her family and all of us. So, maybe it is a tragedy, not just a crime.
